People
Parents, heroes, expectations, and the stories we tell about ourselves. Sometimes I’m the problem too.
10 essays
You're defending it because you've already spent five years on it
When the past becomes an excuse to sacrifice your future too.
Oct 19, 2026 · 3 MIN
You didn't change your mind. You got scared
Yesterday you wanted it. Today someone might actually see you try. Suddenly you've become very sensible.
Oct 17, 2026 · 4 MIN
What if nobody ever finds out how fucking amazing you are?
Would you still do it without an audience, likes, or a chance to prove someone wrong? On a life you've turned into a presentation.
Oct 14, 2026 · 4 MIN
Self-improvement as a way to do nothing
Another book, another course, another habit system. You've spent years getting ready to start and learned to enjoy the preparation itself.
Oct 13, 2026 · 3 MIN
You're not a good person. You're just afraid of conflict
Staying quiet, saying yes, and letting people walk all over you is easy to call kindness. Especially when you're terrified of saying no.
Oct 9, 2026 · 4 MIN
Do you really want a child?
Or do you want a purpose, a marriage rescue, your parents' approval, and someone who's supposedly required to love you?
Oct 7, 2026 · 4 MIN
Nobody owes you applause for trying
You're exhausted, you worked hard, you sacrificed everything. But did you make something useful? On the painful difference between effort and results.
Oct 6, 2026 · 3 MIN
Your parents don't always want you to live your own life
“We only want what's best” sometimes means “live in a way that keeps us comfortable and doesn't embarrass us in front of the neighbors.”
Sep 30, 2026 · 3 MIN
Don't try
At the beginning of Manson's book, there is a phrase: "Don't try." That's the essence of it. There is no heroism here. Just the life of an ordinary person.
Oct 19, 2025 · 1 MIN
Don't be like Durov
Don't try to be like Durov. Or try. But it's better to just live. Enjoy yourself.
Oct 18, 2025 · 2 MIN