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You like the truth until it's about you

You can ask for an example. Check the facts. Take time before answering. Say some of the accusation is unfair, but they're right about this part. You don't have to declare yourself worthless. Admitting a specific mistake isn't signing a lifetime agreement to be humiliated. But if every observation threatens your entire identity, everyone around you will have to lie or leave. Eventually you'll be surrounded by very pleasant people who know exactly what they must never say to you.