From the archive

You're not a good person. You're just afraid of conflict

Sometimes people really are using you. Sometimes they know perfectly well you won't refuse, and that's exactly why they keep coming back. But sometimes they just believed what you said. You said it worked for you. They assumed it worked for you. You said it wasn't a problem. They didn't go looking for a problem underneath your smile. Then it turns out you've been keeping a ledger of resentments in your head for six months. Every yes recorded as a sacrifice that nobody has properly paid you back for. But you haven't shown anyone the bill yet.