From the archive

Do you really want a child?

Perfectly prepared parents don't exist. Having a child doesn't require you to finish living, earn all the money in the world, and stop making mistakes. But discussing reality before it's screaming in the next room is a reasonable idea. Who will do the caring? How will you share the workload? What happens to work? Is there help? What will you do if it's harder than you expected? Can either of you honestly say “I don't want this yet” without being met with emotional blackmail?